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    Home » Recipes » Life

    My Monster, Anxiety

    Published: Oct 10, 2020 · Updated: Aug 21, 2022 by Katy McAvoy

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    My Monster, Anxiety

    The best description of anxiety I’ve ever heard came from a PA at my doctor’s office. 

    She told me anxiety is like a monster in a cage. And we all have one. 

    Storm clouds, lightening and trees

    When the monster is asleep and calm, your anxiety is under control. This is how people without an anxiety disorder feel. 

    When the monster is agitated and rattling the cage, your anxiety has been triggered. This is a normal response to an event that causes anxiety. 

    When the monster is trying to get out of its cage and you’re actively pushing on the cage door to keep it contained, your anxiety is a problem. 

    When the monster is out of the cage and chasing you, your anxiety is out of control. 

    You want to live with the monster asleep and calm, and only have it rattle the cage when triggered before it goes back to calm and sleeping. 

    My monster is never asleep and calm. 

    To live with an anxiety disorder means you're constantly pushing on that cage door to keep the monster in, while trying to make sure no one knows you’re doing it. 

    When the monster inevitably escapes its cage, it’s impossible to hide. 

    I had panic attacks for years before I knew what they were. I always blamed them on some stress in my life - job, family, finances, relationships. 

    The last time the monster burst out of its cage and chased me into a panic attack was three years ago at a big box retail store. I needed to buy my then 2 year old daughter mittens. It was December and the mittens I had sent to daycare, I was told by her teachers, were inadequate. 

    But I couldn’t find any mittens her size in the store. That was all it took that day for my monster to burst out of its cage screaming “what kind of mother doesn’t have warm mittens for her child?!?!?!” 

    I bolted from the store, got in my car, gripped the steering wheel, and took purposeful, deep breaths until the monster shut up and I could push it back in its cage. Then I got out my phone and ordered mittens from Amazon. There was no way I was going back into that store. 

    Therapy, exercise, meditation, sleep, yoga, multiple medications. 

    My treatment list keeps the monster in its cage, but it’s still pissed off and rattling the door. My doctor and I have worked for the past five years to try to get that rattling to stop. But to no avail. Some days it’s softer than others, but it’s never gone. 

    If the monster metaphor rings true for you too, know that you’re not alone. That trying your best each day IS enough. And that a monster rattling its cage IS better than always pushing on that cage door until the monster busts through and starts chasing you. 

    My Monster, Anxiety

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    About Katy McAvoy

    Katy is the author, photographer, home cook, mixologist, and Michigander behind MittenGirl.com. Since 2017, she's been crafting easy-to-make cocktails and delicious meals, along with sharing her love of all things Michigan (a.k.a. The Mitten)!

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    1. Noelle

      October 10, 2020 at 8:29 pm

      Very proud of you sharing your story and so eloquently. I also live with anxiety and this analogy is spot on. I am sorry you have also had to deal with this, but your post is sure to bring comfort to many who need to know they are not alone and to those trying to understand ones they love who suffer from it.

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      • MittenGirl

        October 11, 2020 at 12:57 pm

        Thank you so much, Noelle. I really appreciate your kind words.

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